What is Your Criteria for “Good Enough”?

February 15, 2022

Join me Wednesday, February 16 on the Insight Timer app for the third of my livestream series Invocations for Healing, in which we’ll focus on the Inner Child wound.

We did a deep dive into the Mother and Father wound archetypes as catalysts for shifting your fundamental sense of identity, and your core values that shape the lens through which you experience your world: particularly the way you relate to love (the inner Mother), power (inner Father), and imagination (inner Child).

One disempowering “mantra” that was mentioned by participants on both days is “I’m not good enough.” I used that as an example of how you can deconstruct a disempowering narrative in such a way that makes room for the more empowering narrative to arise organically, rather than to try to force a “positive” belief solely through intellect and rationalism. The brain cannot bypass the body, the emotions, the nervous system. They are all one ecosystem, and the voice is a powerful hub that can unite, focus and direct the various facets of our selves – the mental, spiritual, physiological – on a path of greater well-being and fulfillment.

Here is a series of questions I posed to the participants that may be fruitful for you in your process of rendering that specific thought pattern obsolete. I invite you to recite the questions to yourself and answer them aloud, especially if this example is relevant to you.

  • What specifically is your definition of “good”? What does “good” look like, smell like, taste like, sound like, what is the texture of “good”?
  • What is the criteria by which you determine what is “good” to you?
  • What specifically is your definition of “enough”? What does “enough” look like, smell like, taste like, sound like, what is the texture of “enough”?
  • What is the criteria by which you determine what is “enough” to you?
  • How specifically do you measure “good enough” the way you define it?
  • If you measured your definition of “good enough” as a 10, and you rate yourself as a 6 relative to that standard, are there actions within your control that you can take to move up your scale?
  • Is your scale based on factors that you can control? If so, what are those factors? Now you have a path to move toward a more empowering relationship to yourself, by focusing on those factors.
  • But what if they are factors that you cannot control? For example, if you define “good enough” as making it onto a prestigious magazine list of 30 People Under 30 Years Old who made huge accomplishments….and you’re 31 years old, then you will never be able to experience yourself as good enough based on that criteria.

And it is in that moment of realizing how limiting those old beliefs actually are that creates space to invite more expansive, empowering beliefs into our psyches / souls / bodies.

SOOOO much more I can say about this topic (and I did…both events were two hours!), but this gives you a taste of one of the exercises I covered.

As I mentioned last week, words have IMMENSE power to shake up the paradigms we were born into, and call forth empowered states of being that can hold the most expansive version of ourselves that are evolving through our thought patterns, beliefs, choices, and actions.

Speaking of the Inner Child, are you feeling creatively stuck? Book a 1:1 session with me to awaken your Inner Child through vocal empowerment practices. Let your soul come out and play.

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Onome facilitates transformative experiences at the intersection of voice, creativity, and mindfulness. She designs and leads experiential workshops and 1:1 sessions that clear energetic blockages to self-expression, empower her clients to reclaim and confidently wield the power of their imagination, and foster creative fellowship through mindfulness practices, relational games, and vocal play. Through her audience-interactive performances, workshops and sound installations, Onome embodies joy, enchantment, and infinite possibility. She is a partner artist at Carnegie Hall as a core member of the vocal improvisation ensemble, Moving Star. She leads community vocal immersions at concert halls, conferences, galleries, museums, schools, cultural centers, shelters, prisons, parks, churches, online, wherever voices gather.